Saturday, November 14, 2009
Pssst......don't want to say this too loud....
for fear of jinxing it but today Julia asked me to get her some 'girly' clothes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It all started innocently enough when she handed me a permission slip for the school's running club. Kind of took me by surprise since my girls classify running in the 'cruel and unusual punishment' category. Julia likes being the 'sweeper' defensive player on her soccer team....because you DON'T have to run so much in that position! So thinking this was surely another of a million things my kids begged to join but had no intention of actually participating in.....or no real idea of what was involved, I confronted her demanding to hear why she thought this was something that I should permit. The pitch went along the most common line, "Because most of my class are doing it!". I was so NOT going to sign that permission slip with that as her reasoning and Mari (from her more vast experience in negotiating with Mom) sensing where I was heading threw out the following game changer, "Well she can't catch up with C (boy in Julia's class) if she doesn't practice with the club and trust me....SHE WANTS TO CATCH HIM....hint, hint, Mom!"
Usually I'd have no need to respond because Julia would have tackled Mari and made her take the words back...cry uncle if you will. Not today! She just kind of smiled and gave me THAT FUNNY LOOK!!!!!!!!!!!!! UGGGGHHHH!! My baby girl was admitting to a crush!!!!!!!!!!!! Now what am I supposed to say...or do?? Then she hits me with the wanting some 'girly' clothes request!!! Now my back's against a wall. I've been hoping she would get through the tomboy phase sooner rather than later....BUT NOT LIKE THIS!!
My head is spinning. One minute I want to shout for joy that I've got my little girl back but in the very next thought I'm trying to figure out just how to convey the idea that she shouldn't be trying to remake herself to please someone else. Then I'm thinking, "It's just a third grade crush. How long is that bound to last?" Maybe I'll get lucky and she'll rediscover how 'comfy' girls clothes can be thanks to this young man....maybe a third grade crush isn't such a bad thing after all!! Oh this parenting thing seems a lot like treading in quicksand! Off to break the news to Patrick...then again....maybe not?
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How sweet!
ReplyDeleteI think I went "boy crazy" around the 3rd grade too! I cant wait to see her in "girly "clothes! lol
it awful isn't it that we want to change to attract someone, but apparently thats whats been goign on for centuries and so far we are screwed up but I guess somehow it must all balance out.
ReplyDeleteI love it. I was a tomboy at heart growing up, and I remember a fourth grade crush I had. as I sit here today, I remember that crush as really big. so I wouldn't necessarily think that just because she's in third grade, it will pass from her memory someday. So, I'd say sign that permission slip and get crackin on the sewing machine for some girlie clothes for your little Miss. :) She'll want to remember you fondly during that period of her life!!! of course she will anyway but this will get you big mommy points.
ReplyDeleteLOL Does that mean I get to buy two pink outfits while I'm in Guatemala??
ReplyDeleteWelcome to the teen years a bit early!! Grab some wine its a WILD RIDE!
ReplyDeleteGet some good chocolate, a good tasting wine and settle in for the ride!!!!! And just when you THINK you have it all figured out, BAM comes another challenge!!!! Too cute though with the third grade crush and can't wait to see pictures of her girly shopping!!!!
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